No Faith in the Moral Standards of the Players as a Group

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Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall

What the fuck? I guess the "not hurting you" part is her not mentioning it to you or anyone else, or being seen with the other guy?

As I said, shitty example as Hank's hypothetical drinking is an issue of it's own.

But let's say Hank's got some sort of chronic medical condition that says he can only perform a few times a year. Whereas his wife feels unfulfilled if she's not getting some at least weekly. This wasn't an issue before Hank got ill, and Hank's done everything possible to try to treat it.

You think Hank's wife should just have to go on being unfulfilled? Or that her leaving him over the lack of sexual satisfaction is kinder/more appropriate/less hurtful than doing what she has to do to stay sane and stay married?

Assuming that she really wants to stay with Hank (ha!) and just wants some sexual fulfillment, I think she's perfectly justified with getting some on the side.

Doing so respectfully and discretely would be the challenge, of which "being seen with" is one aspect.

Of course, this is also the kind of scenario in which Hank should be expressly giving his permission, but let's say Hank has insurmountable jealously issues or something.

If that's the case, I guess the only problem you'd have is your embarrassment if she exposed your inability to perform? Or would it be the embarrassment you'd feel at the fact that everyone else knew someone else was fucking your wife?

In these scenarios, my embarrassment would be that she didn't think she could seek my permission, which she would have gotten. The deal changed in a material way and she shouldn't have to bear the entire burden of that change.

You are okay with it prospectively.

I'm okay with is in certain rare situations. You're not okay with it.

Neither of those things matter to Hank when he's working our wives.